It has been months now since I came across that Facebook post but I cannot wash it off my mind. So here I am writing about it hoping that this post will in one way or another reach that person who have said that statement. I want him/her to know that I do agree with what he/she have said; babies do destroy dreams. On the other hand I also want him to know that I believe that things get destroyed to pave the way to the creation of something new, something bigger or smaller but definitely BETTER.
As I have written in a previous post, before going to college I pretty much have a step by step list on how I will live my life. To make it short it was COLLEGE --> INTERNSHIP --> "DREAM JOB". There never was marriage and kids on the list and that is why when I announced my decision of getting married there have been a lot of people who has been really skeptical about it. The reactions intensified when months later I announced I was pregnant. At first I did not mind them it was my life and I should not let anybody shape it for me but then as things got more real for me (like my belly getting big, it felt like I was carrying a watermelon all the time) I felt like maybe people were right and I really made the wrong decision.
Things got worst after I gave pregnant, at one point I felt like giving up but there is no way for me to do that. There is no customer service area where I can simply say I am returning the baby because I do not want it anymore or say "I thought I needed it but actually I don't". It was not until I first saw the smile on my baby's face that I realized that I was doing the right thing and that there is no place I'd rather be than his side. It was during these times when I picked myself up, held my head high and ready to conquer the world with my new family. It still wasn't easy of course, there was a lot of dirty diapers, sleepless nights, messy hair, stretched marks, spilled milk/juice on the carpet that was involved but despite all of this knowing that I have this family for all time and eternity made everything seem so perfect.
As you see babies do destroy dreams but they become your reason to create another dream, something BIGGER and BETTER than before. Babies give you another reason to wake every morning (or at times every 30 minutes or if you're lucky every hour). They give you a new sense of life; with them you always want to be the best that you can be. They give a huge responsibility in your hands; just think about this "who your baby will become depends on the foundations you will create for them". They will sure annoy and disturb you more than anybody else but still you love them more than anybody. They will drain every bit of your energy but it is also them who energizes you to do everything in your power so you can give them the best of everything. I love my son and my husband and I made a promise that no matter what happens we will do everything to help be who he would want to be and also to give him the best that he can have.
Photo by Melinda Pike Photograhy
Love this little monster to pieces.
